The Giantess/Shrinking Fetish has been mentioned on my websites a lot lately as I have been exploring this fetish a lot more recently as I’ve found myself getting closer and closer to one of my caller’s who is very into being shrunk down and being my “tiny little prince”. It seemed only natural that as I discover my attraction to this Fetish I should share it with my callers and let them know what I’ve found…

Dirty Girl Analysis: I always find it strange how you can be into a fetish and never realize you are until someone else brings it to your attention. As an example, when I first started playing around in BDSM I used to like to go to chat rooms where I could pretend I was a small fairy. I would interact with Dominant Men online as this little tiny fairy that would dance in the palms of their hands, do magic tricks, and sometimes the only time I would return to normal size was to sex with them; or cyber sex I should say. I had no idea at the time that I was participating in the fetish of Microphilia. Actually I didn’t realize it until a couple months ago when one of my callers and I started exploring the Giantess Fetish and I started learning a little more about it.

For those that don’t know, Macrophilia is defined by Wikipedia as the sexual attraction to larger people. There are two main focuses in Macrophilia, the shrinking of one person or the enlargement of another. While Microphilia is sometimes considered the opposite, I’m going to suggest that it’s not really the opposite; I think two seem to go hand in hand. Macrophilia focuses on the sexual attraction to larger people while Microphilia focuses on the sexual attraction to smaller people. Which side of the fetish you land on seems to be easily determined by whether you what to be the shrunk or the shrunkee.

In doing my research I read that it is believed that the origin of Macrophilia begins in childhood when a child experiences a sexual or pseudo-sexual response to something like a fairytale, animated cartoon or something similar. I guess that would explain my love for fairies and why my kitchen is decorated in Tinkerbelle. I’ve always had a strange fascination with her. It also said that those that those involved in this fetish are usually extremely shy and fear being made fun of, judged and ridiculed.

A lot of people that know me know that I have often named my animals after Norse Gods, I’ve always had an interest in Norse Mythology, and as I started exploring this fetish one of the things that came to mind were how many Giantess’s there were in Norse Mythology. I’ve always found it interesting how so many fetishes can be traced back to age old stories of Mythology. Sometimes I wonder if that is where half my sexual perversions come from, all the reading I did when I was younger. If any of you readers are interested in reading some of the Norse Mythology stories that included Giantess’s be sure to drop me an email and I will tell you about some of the stories that you should look for.

As far and fetishes go this one is very innocent if you ask me. Since there is really no way to either be shrunken down or enlarged this is one of those fetishes that rely solely on a good imagination, good role play, and therefore it forces you to use one of the biggest sexual organs you have, your mind.

Overall Assessment: From a purely sexual standpoint I would say that the Giantess/Shrinking Fetish is extremely hot, but I am a little biased because I am admittedly very into role-play and sexual situations that cause you to have to use your mind. I think when creativity and imagination are involved in the sexual exchanges between two people it keeps things new, exciting and heart pounding. I can definitely see myself on both sides of the Macrophilia and Microphilia equation. Being a submissive I could definitely get into being 6 inches tall, riding around on some guys cock like I was riding a flying dragon or just being tucked in his pants all day where I could tickle the slit in the head of his cock with my tiny little hand. On the flip side, from a Dominant stand point I could also get into shrinking a boy down, letting him sleep between my breasts, letting him ride on my feet, dropping him in my purse for a day of shopping, or letting him make a little hammock out of my panties to lounge in on the side of the bed and watch me sleep. Maybe he could even wrap his arms around my dildo and hang on while I fuck myself with it. I think all those ideas are terribly hot.

I guess I am not one of those that are extremely shy about this fetish. I have no problem saying that this is hot and something that I am definitely into. Just today in fact one of my callers who found out about my little fetish send me some cartoons of my favorite little fairy involved in some very dirty little sexual scenes and I must admit it turned me on; my pussy was almost instantly wet. Yes indeed the Dirtiest Girl in the World says this is a hot fetish as a matter of fact not only will it make my “Hot Dirty Fetishes” section, but my “Fetishes I have done”, “My Fetish to-do” list (because I definitely haven’t done enough of it yet or explored all the different aspects of it) as well as the “Dirty Girl Favorites.”

So if you are one of those guys with a Giantess/Shrinking fantasy, you can rest assured that you don’t have to be shy about discussing it with your favorite Dirty Phone Sex Girl and for those that haven’t tried anything in this department yet but think you might like to, remember the Dirty Girl motto; Try everything at least once, otherwise you really can’t say you’re not into it. The one other thing I will say about this fetish is that it is the first time I have found a fetish, were there was absolutely no negative aspect of having a small penis! So there is hope for all you little dicked boys out there that don’t want to be humiliated over it! We could shrink you down into my tiny little sex toys!

Dirty Girl Analysis
I’ve seen voyeurism in a lot of different forms in my time. Back when I was a dancer (ok, stripper. And you pretty much guessed I had that on the resume, right?), I knew the guys that came in were there because they liked to see naked girls. No big surprise there. When I’m in the naughty store, I know that the guys in the raincoats scanning the DVD aisles trying not to make eye contact with anyone are there because they want to watch people fucking. And I also know when I see my geeky young next door neighbor smile sheepishly at me and say hi, then quickly move on, that I was probably a little too loud in bed the night before and he had himself a good wank listening to me.

So, yeah, all my examples are of males. Now don’t get me wrong, I love going to strip clubs with a guy I’m into, or maybe a girl’s night out, and I like looking at hot women too (I’m such a tit girl, it’s not even funny), and I know I’m not alone in that. But we’re definitely outnumbered by the guys. Males always have been, and always will be more visually attuned in their sexuality. We girls just aren’t that visually oriented. And I think that fact, something the guys can’t even help about themselves, has colored our perception of what we call voyeurism.

Just work with me on this: Guys like looking at women. They can’t help it. Too much of that makes women uncomfortable. And knowing that we’ve probably been added to some guy’s Mental Masturbation File isn’t appealing to some women. This takes us back to the general prudish, puritanical view of sex that we’ve been saddled with for ages. Which drives me fucking batty.

While doing research for this analysis, I kept coming across consensual and non-consensual voyeurism. Some folks want to do their thing in private, and others don’t mind having an audience. It’s a simple distinction sure, and no one needs to be a part of something that they don’t want to be, but if we’d loosen up about our sexuality, then the boundaries between consensual and non-consensual would shift. If more people were accepting of other people’s sexual thoughts (and their own, for that matter), then they wouldn’t mind being thought of in a sexual way. This gives the voyeur less guilt in undressing you with his eyes, and imagining what he’d do to you when you’re alone with him. Everyone’s comfort zones expand, and we all live happily ever after.

I guess my point is that everyone’s a voyeur to some extent, so why should it be considered perverted? Don’t believe me? If we weren’t all voyeurs then America’s Funniest Home Videos wouldn’t be so popular, or Flickr for that matter. Reality television has confirmed that we’re a nation of voyeurs, and also proved that the word doesn’t mean what it used to anymore. The act of watching someone, and gaining pleasure from it, is voyeurism. Doesn’t matter if it’s at a peep show (guilty, here!) or in your lay-z-boy watching a forty year-old man get kicked in the crotch while Bob Saget makes jokes.

Overall Assessment
Sexually speaking, I don’t think I’m much of a voyeur. Like I said, I enjoy a strip club every now and then, and I like watching porn, but never alone. I’d rather be with a guy, watching people get it on, fooling around at the same time and getting hot because he’s getting hot. I have no problem with someone eyeing me up and down and mentally having his way with me. I mean, I’m a phone sex operator! I’d BETTER be the object of guys’ fantasies, and the only thing better than knowing that they’re pulling on their cocks while thinking of me is watching them do it in person. That’s the one thing I never get tired of watching, and let me tell you, if you want to bring out the voyeur in your girl, when things are getting hot and heavy, offer to masturbate in front of her. If you make it all the way to climax without her jumping your bones, she’s going to pretty much attack you for round two.

Something happened recently that made me think of voyeurism specifically. I was over at a friend’s house, and it was only a few of us. Everyone had plenty to drink, but no one was sloppy drunk. Anyway, I wasn’t feeling as horny as she was, so after she fooled around with a mutual female friend (the usual, pussy licking, fingering) I watched her move to her boyfriend and kneel in front of him. I won’t give you the play-by-play, because he was shy and embarrassed, despite the alcohol (so cute!) but eventually, with out encouragement, they ended up naked in bed with us sitting around, watching. Every time one of them would go to put the sheet over them, we’d laugh and one of us would pull it back so we could see. Soon, they forgot about us, and did what they normally do when they were alone. The beer made them start and stop, both physically and mentally, but once they got a rhythm going and truly forgot we were there, it was really beautiful to watch. No, I didn’t jump in and help, but I stayed in the arms of a good friend and gave them encouragement. Well ok, I was topless. But the point is it was dirty, nasty, filthy beautiful sex between two people, who stopped communicating with their voices and languages, and used their bodies and instincts.

I know you guys think of me as the Dirtiest Girl in the World, but watching them I kind of had a kumbaya moment of wishing everyone could be like this. And the shitty thing is that conventional wisdom says what I was doing was wrong, that I shouldn’t have been watching them. And if I’d gone along with that, I’d have missed out seeing something wonderful.

So when you’re looking at someone, and we both know you will, make sure you’re not making them uncomfortable, as that’s not cool. You’ll know if your attention is welcome or not. Once you figure that out, do what feels natural. If that’s grabbing your lover by the hair and doing them hard, while you tell them the story of what you saw, then awesome. If you’re alone and need a long wank session, that’s cool too. Just call me first so I can listen…

As long as there is an audience who wants to see it, there will be nudity on display. It might be running bare-assed in the middle of a sporting event or Academy Awards show, or getting covered in Mardi Gras beads courtesy of strenuously lifting and lowering your arms while still hanging on to your halter top, but no matter, somebody’s showing off for someone to appreciate it.

Wikipedia describes exhibitionism as “sexual gratification, above & beyond the sexual act itself, which is achieved by risky public sexual activity and/or bodily exposure and includes engaging in sex where one may possibly be seen in the act, or caught in the act.” When I looked at varous psychological definitions, I was disappointed but not surprised to see the stuffy professionals only considering the detrimental side of it: indecent exposure.

Not a very sex-positive attitude, is it? But you can’t blame them for lumping all of us pervs together. No kid (or adult, for that matter) needs to have glimpses of sexuality thrown at them in a threatening manner. If you’re going to open up your raincoat in front of me though, you better make it good, because I’ve seen it all. That’s why for the purposes of this analysis, I’m going to be pretty specific, and concentrate on the aspect of having sex for an audience. Streaking, or flashing by either a male or female is not what we’re examining here. Also, since I know plenty of strippers who wouldn’t dream of performing the horizontal mambo for an audience that leaves them out of it too. I mean, think about it, every generation swears that the kids are wearing less and less, and dressing more provacatively than they ever would have. Public exposure of skin is a constant in our lives because sex is constantly on our minds. It takes a different breed of person to perform sexually for someone to watch, though.

Dirty Girl Analysis:

Exhibitionism comes in all flavors, but I think it all boils down to whether you care if you “get caught” or not. Sex in a public place, cloak and dagger style, includes the possibility of being seen by someone, and implies that you’re doing something that you know you’re not supposed to be doing. A friend of mine reminded me of the difference between “naked” and “nekkid.” “Naked” means having no clothes on and “Nekkid” means having no clothes on and you’re up to something… usually no good.

If your goal is to not get caught, then your blood is pumping from the danger; the sex can be fast and furious, or lewd and lascivious, and the sheer naughtiness of performing such a private act in public drives you to climax. In public, even the most innocent pervy behavior is taken to a new level. Gropes and nibbles in a grocery store give way to the back seat of a car, a blowjob in a movie theater, or a fingering while waiting for your table at a restaurant. These are all perfect places to be sexual around others. And if you don’t think you can climax in time, I guarantee dwelling on the environment around you, and the idea that no one else can tell what you’re doing is bound to drive you over the edge. True fetishists can make an art out of location, timing, an accidental audience, and pretending that they don’t know what they’re doing or how far they’re going.

In fact, the British term “dogging” came around a few years ago to describe the fad of sex in public where people want an audience of some kind. There’s even an etiquette, and signals to learn when your attendence to watch a carnal act would be appreciated.

But what about exhibitionism in a pervert friendly surrounding? Well, there are nude beaches I suppose, but then there are the adult-only resorts and clubs around the world where public sexuality is encouraged. Behind closed doors, around like-minded people, you can be watched going much further than you’d be able to in the campus library… or at least, you’ll be able to take your time getting there.

This kind of setting is a hallmark of group sex, where you’re going at it among other people who are doing the same thing. But the beauty of exhibitionism is that it’s free from the pressure or having to have sex with people who you don’t know very well. One couple having sex right beside another, with no swapping or cross-couple touching, can be incredibly hot, as well as a learning experience. And I think taking turns, one couple going first, then the other, is hot as hell. With comfortable surroundings and like-minded friends that you know very well, you can go at it with your chosen partner, and still get the taboo of the private act made public.

I associate exhibitionism with my younger days, as I was finding out exactly what kind of pervert I was. The evolution of your Dirty Girl has her doing very little exhibitionism these days, but I’ve done my share to be sure, and never regretted it. Although I never quite got around to fulfilling my fantasy of being watched in a live sex show by a paying audience; no cameras, just a stage, customers and my chosen fuckbuddy. Wicked hot.

Overall Assessment:

I think that exhibitionism is the safest form of pervdom available to consenting adults. It’s dipping your toe into the Naughty Pool without getting too wet, since you can control a lot of the circumstances around your display. And as you get better at it, taking bigger risks can make the sex even more exciting. Make sure you know the laws around your area and the real chances of getting caught before you whip it out and stick it in, though. Or, at your next party when the crowd filters out and only the closest friends are still hanging out, start fooling around. Then go a little further. You’ll thank me for it!

Let me first start by explaining that for the purposes of this fetish analysis “edge play” is being defined as pushing someone to the edge, testing their limits, and seeing how close to the edge your can take them. Edge play is also sometimes categorized as “blade play” or “knife play” however it is not what I consider to be the legitimate use of the term.

According the Steel-Door Edge Play is “The action of offering new challenges to the edges of play you and your submissive are already familiar with. Every physical challenge is equally as mentally challenging as it is asking your submissive to reach beyond where they think they can for you, and for them. It may be as simple as progressing from one set of clamps to another, from spanking to the introduction of the crop and it may be as complex as sensory deprivation and trust play.”

Edge Play is most commonly defined by lifestyle BDSMers as any type of play that is considered “edgy” or pushing the edge of the commonly practiced, or skirting the limits of the traditional safe, sane and consensual creed. It is very important to note two things regarding edge play.

1. Some forms of edge play may involve illegal activity that legal consent may not be a viable defense to if any serious injuries are incurred. It is also important to note that there are many non-physical injuries that can be included in the definition of grievous bodily harm. If you have concerns about the type of play you are interested in from a legal standpoint you should consult a kink friendly professional before participating.

2. Many Activities and Fetishes that fall under the umbrella of Edge Play are considered dangerous, and many lifestylers will advise you that one should not play in such areas at all, and at the minimum should not participate in or attempt these types of play without proper training, education, supervision and any and all possible safety precautions in place.

Wikipedia lists possible scenarios involved in edge play as:
Branding, Body Modification, Breath Play, Gun Play, Cuttings, Blood Play, Humiliation, Incest Fantasies, Age Play, Scat Fetishism, Racial Slurs, Total Power Exchange, Rape and Abduction Scenes and Zoophilia.

There is a ton of controversy when it comes to Edge Play. Mainly in my opinion because so many things fall under the umbrella of “Edge Play” that it becomes next to impossible to make any sort of positive statement about it because there are too many negative possibilities. I also think that the definition of Edge Play is an ever evolving term. What constitutes Edge Play this year may not necessarily constitute Edge Play next year. It seems each year our horizons broaden a bit. Just last year at ‘Kink Fest’ in Portland Oregon there were entire seminars held on Gun Play and Role Plays that involved Racial Slurs. That tells me that those two topics are a bit more widely accepted and considered less edgy than there were a few years ago perhaps. Wikipedia gives another good example when it mentions that in the mid 1990’s the Living in Leather Convention did not have panels on age play or scat because they were too edgy, however since the year 2000 they have been a regularly featured part of their list programming.

Dirty Girl Analysis: Well first let me begin by saying that I’m all for freedom of sexual expression and freedom of sexual play as long as that play does not permanently harm or damage anyone either mentally physically or emotionally. I also firmly believe that what goes on sexually between two or more consenting adults is nobody’s business but theirs. That is of course unless they give cause for it to be. Role-playing and fantasy in my mind is a harmless act that can be very fulfilling and I think that with almost every thing there are varying degrees to such behavior and that if done in the right manner can be utterly harmless. Take gun play for example. If I have a fantasy about being held and fucked at gun point, it would be very easy to fulfill that fantasy with either an unloaded gun or a toy gun. After all the biggest sex organ is your mind and if my partner can convince me with is actions in the midst of the role-play that the gun is real, then it makes little or no difference whether it is in fact real or not. Age Play is another classic example. Perhaps I have a naughty school girl fantasy. I do not see anything wrong with dressing up as a Catholic School girl and pretending for the evening to let my partner have his way with me, take my virginity or spank my naughty bottom. I mean lets be honest here, I lost my virginity when I was fourteen years old and nobody involved was ever accused of being a nasty pervert. So if my partner and I want to role play for the evening that I’m fourteen again and that he’s the one taking my virginity instead of the dorky guy I gave it up too way back when, why not? Rape and Abduction fantasies are another great example. If in the back of my mind I have fantasies related to these things and my play partner and I want to pretend that we do not know each other for the evening and that he has kidnapped me, locked me in his dungeon and is holding me hostage in order to have his way with me sexually, who care? We aren’t doing anything Hollywood actors and actress don’t do on a regular basis in movies that we sit in theaters and watch each and every day. The only factor I see of any significance importance here is that nobody is involved that doesn’t wish to be involved, and that nobody is injured, and by injured I’m not talking about a bruise you got from a spanking I’m talking about an injury that takes you to the hospital or emergency room because somebody did something stupid and careless. I think with all things there are limits and lines that get cross and the moment any of type of Edge Play becomes more than a role-play or fantasy that is meticulously planned, arranged and played out with the utmost attention to safety taken into consideration then it has become more than a sexual pass time to enhance the erotic play between two people and to me, is no longer even something one would consider a Fetish. It is now an obsession and an unhealthy one that and you may want to consider seeing a therapist before you find yourself acting on your urges and seriously hurting someone. So long as we’re talking safe sane and consensual I think Edge Play can be a wonderful thing and while there are certain aspects of it that I personally would never have an interest in, there are others that I would, for example breath play is something I find extremely erotic and hot.

Overall Assessment: I’m going to say that with the provisions mentioned above and taking into consideration that there are many forms of Edge Play, some I find erotic and hot and some I don’t that. I would definitely categorize this as a dangerous fetish, seeing as though so much of it requires education, training and proper safety precautions from both a physical and mental standpoint. However at the same time Edge Play would definitely make the dirty girl list of favorites as well as involved some things that I haven’t yet experienced but would put on my list of things to do. Just remember, any type of kink or sexual fetish should in the end be rewarding and safe for all parties involved, if it’s not, then it’s not hot.

The technical definition of -
Algolagnia is: Both Masochism and Sadism.
Algophilia is: Enjoyment or arousal from pain.
Doleros is: Arousal from pain.
Rhabdophilia is: Arousal from being flogged, beaten or caned.

Spanking is probably one of the most common and often practiced fetishes I have ever come across and like anything spanking can go from one extreme to the other. Spanking can be something as simple as taking your partner over your knee, lifting her up skirt and slapping her bottom with your bare hand or it can be something more elaborate like a well planed out and methodical role play where your partner is wearing a catholic schoolgirl outfit, and you are the Head Master/Mistress rapping on her naughty bottom a few times with your yard stick. According to my research spanking fetishists seem to say that more often than not they spank with what is handy, and if there is nothing near by when the urge strikes then they use their bare hand. This isn’t at all surprising I mean how many things did you get spanked with as a child? I got spanked with everything from a wooden spatula to my own waffle ball paddle; it just depended on what was in the vicinity to grab when I was misbehaving. However I also found that most of the people I talked to and most of the information I read suggested that those with more serious spanking fetishes, such as those that actually require spanking in some form or another to actually become aroused tend to plan out spanking sessions and include as many different spanking instruments as possible to create different sensations. As an example a wooden paddle will hurt far more than a leather paddle. The most commonly mentioned spanking instruments were paddles, floggers, canes, crops, whips, kitchen utensils, hair brushes and of course, the bare hand.

Why spanking though? One has to wonder right? However finding the psychological motivator behind a spanking fetish is nearly impossible simply because there is the possibility of so very many. As an example an article published in the Sex Herald suggests that “spankers are men whose good-faith efforts to treat women fairly have left them confused and angry about the role of male power and authority in relationships.” I guess the Sex Herald didn’t meet 50% of my clients because that seems to exclude the population of men that enjoy being spanked. As a matter a fact as a spanking fetishist myself, I tend to shake my head at just about everything the Sex Herald had to say. In fact in my research I found that most people that discussed spanking fetishes wanted to link them to some pyscho babble bullshit about eroticizing childhood trauma. But if you ask me they left out the biggest physiological motivators of all.

In an effort to test this theory I interviewed several spanking fetishists that I know and in the end the answers I received all concurred with my own theories. From the spankee point of view many said they enjoyed the physical pain, and found spanking to be a sensation play experience that sensitized their body to the touch of their partner. Some also stated that the power exchange in and of itself was the largest attraction for them; the act of giving up and allowing someone to spank them. Most of the spankee’s that I spoke with said they had never even been spanked as children, but did find it to be a bit of an age regression play to be bent over and have their bottoms spanked in the name of “misbehaving”. Likewise from the Spanker perspective the power exchange seemed to be the number one motivator. The Spanker liked having control relinquished to them. Additionally I found that most of the Spankers I talked to also mention that part of what motivated them was the fact that the person being spanked liked it. As one spanker told me – “I perform oral sex on a woman because it makes her feel good, likewise, I spank a woman because it makes her feel good, to see her aroused arouses me and visa versa.”

Dirty Girl Analysis: Hey, bend me over, spank my naughty ass and maybe I’ll tell you what I really think. Seriously though, once again I will admit a bit of a biased here, but I love spanking and I’m definitely not buying into the ‘there is something psychologically wrong with me and I’m acting out my frustrations with how I was treated as a child’ mumbo jumbo.

I’ll tell you why I like spanking. I like spanking because it feels good, I like spanking because I like that sensation when my bottom is red and warm and slightly bruised and you can rake your finger across by skin and send me into sub space where I have mind blowing orgasms. In all honesty I often think that my butt and my clit are somehow attached to each other by a muscle I have yet to hear of because my clit tingles and throbs with every swat to my ass and I love it! I like the power exchange, and I like the excitement. I think that to some extent there is a bit of erotic fear involved in spanking, a bit of spontaneity in the fact that I don’t know when the next blow is coming. The fact that I don’t know when the person spanking me will stop and touch me, caress me or fuck me. I like the nurturing aspect after I have been spanked. I like my Dominant’s mouth against my ear rubbing my hair back from my face asking me if I am okay and if I want to keep going. I like the smile on his face when I say “Yes Sir, more please.” I like the group of people at play parties that are impressed by how much I suffer for the Dominant that plays with me. I like the bruises on my body the next morning after I’ve been spanked with a flogger, cane or some other instrument that left a reminder for me that I was controlled and dominated the night before. Perhaps there are people out there that do eroticize childhood trauma and enjoy spanking, but I can say with confidence that if that was the only reason they enjoyed spanking, they would be a little hard pressed to find someone to do it to them, at least in all the BDSM circles I have ever hung out in. I know that whenever I have spanked someone I have done it for one reason and one reason only, because it turns me on to give to them all the things I love so much about being spanked. It turns me on to know that they are receiving the same rush of feeling, sensitivity, emotion and adrenalin that I receive when I am the one kneeling over the spanking bench having my cute little ass beaten.

Overall Assessment: I think spanking is smoking hot from every angle and I do not think that it is as psychologically unhealthy as psychologists and therapists that have written about it would like us to think. Perhaps if I knew the motivator behind it, for the person I was playing with at the time was some sort of reliving of childhood trauma I would not find it near as arousing. For the most part however I tend to think spanking is just one of those things that is misunderstood by everyone that doesn’t like it. I see spanking as an Adult game, trust me I got just as many bruises from playing chase, tag, tug-o-war and kissy kissy with the boys as a kid as I get from letting a man spank me as an adult. In my opinion, everything gets more intense as we grow up, why shouldn’t the way we interact with people sexually as well? I say spanking is where it’s at! It’s something I’ve done, done a lot; actually, I’d say it’s a dirty girl ritual so it definitely makes my list of favorite fetishes.

The technical definition of Acomoclitic is: A preference for hairless genitals.

Depilation is probably one of the most common fetishes out there today. It has become very popular amongst the BDSM community as well as in main stream society. It seems that the societal image of what is considered ‘pretty’ and ‘beautiful’ changes from decade to decade as well as what is considered ‘trendy’, ‘fashionable’ and ‘cool’. I can recall being a young girl and sneaking pornographic movies from my Aunt’s stash and seeing images of naked women in the au natural state and at the time the thought never even entered my mind that one day I would shave off all my pubic hair. Depilation, as with any other fetish can range from one extreme to the other. One could have a liking for women that have completely shaved, waxed, or in some form removed all traces of hair from their pubic area, or they could have an affinity for the trimmed, bikini line shaved, racing stripe type of look. Depilation fetishes can also include incorporating the act of shaving or waxing during a scene and of course could also include the desire to be shaved or waxed by another person. One article I read during my research on the subject even mentioned the fact that pubic hair styles have become more and more popular and that some women opt to leave triangular shaped patches of hair as well as diamonds, hearts, and whatever other artful ideas they or their partners come up with while standing there razor in hand.

The only controversy I could find on this particular fetish was a the few people that vehemently believe that a woman is some how exploited or subjugated by being convinced or brainwashed into thinking she need shave her public region in and effort to meet someone’s standards of beautiful and some controversy around the personal decision to shave, trim or wax. I will also mention while I am discussing this particular fetish, that one should not feel alone if this is not their thing; During my research I have also discovered the opposite end of the spectrum and found just as much information (that I will share with you later) on Gynelophilous, which is the technical term for being aroused by the site or touch of public hair.

For more information when trying to make a decision to shave, trim or wax I recommend the following reading:

Public Shave.com
Hair Removal Advice

Nawty Things.com
Step by Step Shaving Instructions

Dirty Girl Analysis:Well my opinion on this one is quite a bit biased. I’ve been involved in the BDSM lifestyle for several years and one of the first things I ever had to do as an act of my surrender and submission to a Man was to shave my pussy. The one thing I found extremely strange about it at the time was that he wasn’t even having sexual relations with me just yet. It was simply an outward display of the fact that I would surrender to his wishes and desires in an attempt to please him and make him happy. Perhaps some of the controversy over a woman being exploited and subjected that I mention earlier was true; I was embarrassed and humiliated the first time he checked to see if I was indeed baby smooth as he had wanted me and even more shocked and humiliated by the realization of how much more sensitive my nether regions were after removing all traces of hair from them. I think shaving is one of those things that grows on you very quickly, and it definitely has its perks. From the female perspective it leaves me feeling vulnerable and bare to the man I am playing with, more sensitive to his touch, and more sensitive to the feel of his cock penetrating me. Additionally I have found that for me personally I like to be reminded of who and what I am when at all possible and once you begin shaving you find very quickly that to keep yourself smooth and to prevent irritation from stubble, shaving becomes pretty much a daily ritual. I can honestly say that almost every day I shave I am reminded of the fact that I am a submissive woman, and when in a relationship, I’m reminded of someone’s control and power over me in that I do what pleases them and take the time and effort to maintain that on a regular basis. One thing I found during my research that I thought was hot was that in ancient Egypt and Greece, prostitutes where required to shave as a clear sign of their profession. I found myself idly wondering if outside the lifestyle and fetish perhaps we would not find that the women that do shave are ones that have careers in the Adult Entertainment industry and perhaps the aspect of ‘societal beauty’ played a big part in the recent trend of bare or nearly bare pussies. On another personal note however, I have also dabbled in the age play fetish a time or too, alright, perhaps more than that, but regardless, I know that the bare and shaved pussy has come into play many times in my age play scenarios and is another reason I find this particular fetish so wonderful. Last but not least I think from a hygienic standpoint shaving is a miraculous thing. I have no problems or shame admitting that I am a very oral person, both on the giving and receiving end and I can tell you from personal experience that I am much more likely to perform orally and for longer periods of times, hours and hours in fact, if the man I am with is well trimmed or shaved. It makes the whole experience a hundred times more enjoyable for me.

Overall Assessment: I think acomoclitic, depilation, hair removal, and shaving have a very advantageous effect on my sexual life and I can definitely understand how others would feel the same way. I have to say that I think for me personally I consider depilation and shaving more a maintenance thing and something I can do to make the sexual experience a man shares with me more pleasant much akin to the way I would take a shower and put on some makeup and perfume before going out on a date with someone. However I’ve also experienced for myself the humiliation and power exchange factor that can be involved with depilation and that said, I consider it a pretty hot fetish, and it definitely makes my lists of favorites!

The technical definition of asphyxiaphilia is: Sexual arousal, or enhancement, from lack of oxygen.

Asphyxiation is most often and to my knowledge defined as temporarily preventing someone from breathing and thereby not allowing the flow of oxygen into their lungs. I personally have seen some very hot asphyxiation scenes in movies and have definitely experienced some myself. As with any fetish, asphyxiation can be something as innocent as wrapping your hands around somebody’s neck while you are fucking them and become as complicated and intricate as carefully planned out scenes that involve latex or rubber masks, hoods, straight jackets and saran wrap. Also with any fetish, asphyxiation can be practiced in a way that provides a loving, tender and intense power exchange, or can be taken to the other extreme and included as part of a rougher sexual fantasy or role play.

There is some pretty intense controversy regarding the practice of asphyxiation. When practiced in a manner that completely blocks of the flow of oxygen for a long period of time it can result in the participant “blacking out” or passing out and can require resuscitation. It is extremely important that people understand this can be dangerous and requires knowledge about technique and health issues before attempting this particular sort of play.

For additional information on all forms of breath play and the medical dangers I suggest the following reading:

The Medical Realities of Breath Play
by Jay Wiseman Author of “SM 101: A Realistic Introduction”

What is it about Breath Control?
Based on material by Rob Jellinghaus

Dirty Girl Analysis: No matter how you paint it or twist it I personally find most types of breath play to be extremely hot. The psychological motivator for me in regards to this particular fetish is the intense power exchange involved. I should add that I have never participated in any form of breath play accept when in a situation where I was completely aware of my play partners knowledge. To me, there is nothing more submissive I can do than allow someone the power to control my breath. There is no action I can think of that clearly displays the surrender and trust I feel as a submissive to a Dominant more than the gift of something so essential to my life, my ability to breathe. I should also mention that I have never practice breath play to the point of black out or pass out, in truth the partners I have played with have always used what I’ve come to call a ‘tapping out method’. In my personal experience, when participating in breath play when I have reached the moment that I can no longer hold my breath, breath, or a moment of panic, I personally tend to frantically tap my hand on whatever is closest to me; a bed, a wall, a person’s chest and at that point or very quickly there after my play partners have always returned to me my ability to take oxygen into my lungs. I must say that at that precise moment, especially if on the edge of or during an orgasm, the simple act of being allowed to breath and the feeling of oxygen being inhaled into my lungs will push me into a mind numbing orgasm that I can only describe as earth shattering.

Overall Assessment: I think asphyxiation, breath play, breath control, strangulation and suffocation can all be insanely hot as long as they are done in the safest manner possible by well educated individuals. I would defiantly put this on my list of been there, done that and would do it again, over and over and over if given the opportunity.